Transitioning from raising children with your spouse into becoming a single parent because of divorce isn't easy. You are going to have to figure out some different points to make the process a little easier. One thing that you have to remember is that your ex is still your child's other parent.
There are going to be times when you are going to have to work together with your ex. These can be trying but you need to work through it for the sake of your children.
How can we handle conflicts?
Conflicts will almost certainly happen. Before the first one does, you need to decide what you are willing to fight over and what you are going to just leave alone. One thing to consider in these cases is how the issue affects the children. If it doesn't have an impact on your child's safety or health, it might be an issue that can be left alone.
What can we do to focus?
Always remember that your children are the main priority in these cases. As you try to make decisions, think about how the options that you have available might impact the kids. Don't think about you or your ex as this might lead you to make decisions that aren't in the child's best interest.
How can we keep the environment stable?
Providing stability for the children is important. By presenting a united front between you and your ex, you can help give them the consistency that they need to thrive. Even though you don't live in the same home as your ex now, you can still work together to determine what major rules will remain present in both homes. Touching on these in the child custody paperwork might help make this easier on everyone.
Source: Our Family Wizard, "Parenting After Divorce: 10 Ways To Make Shared Parenting Work," accessed May 10, 2018