The choice of a divorce mediator is one that must be taken seriously. Many people who divorce decide that they are going to work together to come up with the terms of the divorce so that they don't have to go through the laborious process of litigation.
When you choose a mediator, you need to think carefully about a few points. One of the most important points is that the mediator needs to be someone you can trust. The mediation process is confidential, so you need to find someone who isn't going to discuss your case with anyone. Mediators usually sign confidentiality agreements, but an unethical person might not care about this. Ask friends and family members for recommendations and go from there.
The mediator has to be someone who won't take sides and who knows the ins and outs of divorce. The mediation process can be stressful so you don't want have to worry that the mediator is throwing the process to one spouse over the other. Since you and your ex will be working together, you need to know that the mediator can keep the negotiations on the right path. Knowing about divorce, from a legal and emotional standpoint, is usually something that can greatly help mediators help you.
Throughout the mediation, you need to make sure that your interests are being protected. Taking steps to ensure you are using a reputable mediator can help you to do this. Once you choose the mediator, you can start working on preparing yourself for the process, which includes thinking about how you want the settlement to work.
Source: FindLaw, "Tips for Choosing a Divorce Mediator," Christopher Coble, Esq., accessed Dec. 22, 2017