Leaving an abusive relationship is a big step, but it is often one that can save your life. When you are deciding what to do about this situation, you need to think about how you are going to stay safe. Many people successfully leave abusive marriages. However, there is always a chance that your leaving will anger your abuser.
Before you leave, make sure you have a plan for where you will go. This can be a family member’s or friend’s house, but you must ensure they are prepared to help keep you safe in case your ex shows up. You also have the option of staying at a shelter for victims of domestic violence. These centers often have resources that can be very valuable to you.
Another way that you can have some measure of protection is to seek out a protective order, which is also known as a restraining order. In Texas, there is a temporary order that can be issues for a maximum of 20 days before it must be extended. The general protective order is valid for up to two years. These orders forbid your ex from having any contact with you, including all forms of communication.
There are serious penalties that your abuser will face if they don’t comply with the order. If you see your ex too close to you or if they try to contact you through any means, alert the police. If they are in violation of the order, they can be arrested. Violations come with incarceration and fines, depending on the circumstances.
