The end of a marriage is hard on the adults who have grown accustomed to having each other's support. It is also very hard on the children who have to learn to live with their parents in two different homes. As a parent, helping your children cope with the situation is something that you have to find a way to do and it needs to be the priority.
We understand that you might find it difficult to help your children when you are still having trouble coping yourself. There are several things that you can do that might help. We can educate you about what to expect so that you can plan successfully for what's to come.
Child custody agreements are a big part of what will determine how various situations are handled. At first, you might have temporary orders that outline the parenting plan. You and your ex will then have to work through the permanent child custody agreement.
One thing that you have to realize is that when you get the agreement made, you need to ensure that it works for right now. As your child grows up, certain things might need to change. This can be done by a child custody modification.
Each decision that you make with your custody agreement needs to focus on your child. Don't lose sight of this crucial point: Trying to situate things so that they are easier for you or harder for your ex can make your life more stressful than what it needs to be.