Going through a divorce is tough on everyone. Your soon-to-be-ex is mourning the end of the relationship. You're dealing with a wide range of emotions. And, if you've got children, they're probably feeling the effects of the split as hard as anyone.
There's no two ways around it: divorce is going to be hard. But there are ways to deal with it that will help you come out a stronger man. Here are a few ways to do that:
- Recognize that the marriage is gone. This can be the toughest thing you'll ever be asked to do. It's the only life you've known, so a huge part of you is still hanging on to it. However, the sooner you can let go of it, the sooner you'll be able to move on to a new chapter in life.
- Reconnect with buddies. As men, we may not deal with our emotions by pouring our hearts out to our friends. But that doesn't mean a little bro time can't heal some wounds.
- Forgive yourself. When you go through a split, you replay the scenario a million times in your heart and try to think of what could have gone better. Forget it. Absolve yourself and move on.
- Get a new hobby (or go back to your old ones). Divorce is a great time to explore a hobby you've always wanted to do or rediscover one you've lost touch with during the marriage.
Getting a family law attorney can be an invaluable help, too. Your attorney can help walk you through the process and that can often ease the burden.